
There are a lot of people out there who talk a lot about helping their clients find “their real voice,” or “market authentically.”
The intention behind the words is sincere. I’ve no doubt. But I still feel like barfing everytime I read the word “authentic” on some website’s homepage. I should add that I feel the same way about a lot of words that are overused.
One issue is that “authentic” is a word that has turned into a cliche due to overuse by coaches, therapists, motivational speaker types, and so on.
I think that there is a real need at the center. I certainly understand. It’s not as much as an issue for me now in comparison to the past. But from time to time I find myself saying things or doing things that I really don’t want to do. I do things out of a sense of obligation or I do things because I want the other people to like me or think highly of me.
We all want to feel like we’ll be loved by others no matter what. If “love” seems too touchy feely just substitute a word or phrase like “accepted,” “appreciated,” “valued,” ”a valued employee,” whatever.
It’s possible, and I’m just thinking out loud here, that the people offering services to teach others how to “market authentically,” or “speak from an authentic place,” are, themselves struggling to be authentic. Which makes them then come across as “fakey.”
Or maybe it’s because the idea of teaching or coaching someone on being authentic just seems like a stupid idea. Do we have to be taught or coached to be ourselves? Or is there something else we need to help us feel safe enough to be ourselves?
I don’t have a specific answer to this question but I am curious what might be behind my annoyance.